Why I Do This Work (And Why I Get It)

People often assume therapists have things figured out—that we’re calm, certain, and somehow immune to the very struggles we help others navigate. The truth is much simpler. I’m not perfect. I’m human. And like many of the women I work with, I’m living this life too.

I chose this work not because I have all the answers, but because I understand how complicated it can feel to carry anxiety, grief, and responsibility at the same time.

I Know Anxiety From the Inside

I know what it’s like to second-guess decisions and wonder if you’re doing enough—or doing things “right.” I know the feeling of lying awake at night replaying conversations, choices, and what-ifs. Anxiety doesn’t always look like panic; sometimes it looks like constant mental noise, self-doubt, and exhaustion.

That experience shapes how I show up as a therapist. I understand how frustrating it can be to feel overwhelmed by your own thoughts while still appearing capable on the outside.

Grief Doesn’t Stay in the Past

I lost my father several years ago. Time has passed, life has moved forward—and still, grief shows up in unexpected ways. Sometimes it’s a song on the radio. Sometimes it’s a memory that catches me off guard.

Grief isn’t something we “finish.” It weaves itself into who we are. Knowing that has deeply informed how I work with women who feel confused or frustrated that their grief hasn’t followed a neat timeline.

Parenting Brings Its Own Questions

Parenting a teenager has been its own lesson in uncertainty. I’ve second-guessed decisions, worried about saying the wrong thing, and questioned whether I’m doing enough—or too much. Loving deeply while letting go of control isn’t easy, and it often brings anxiety along with it.

I understand the quiet worry many women carry about their children, even when things seem “fine.”

This Season of Change Is Real

Approaching menopause has added another layer I didn’t fully anticipate. Changes in memory, difficulty focusing, disrupted sleep, and growing impatience can make you wonder if something is wrong with you.

Nothing is “wrong.” Bodies change. Hormones shift. And without context or support, those changes can feel unsettling or even alarming. I get how disorienting that can be.

Why This Matters in Therapy

I don’t share these things because therapy should be about me—it shouldn’t. I share them because lived experience matters. It shapes empathy. It deepens understanding. And it allows me to sit with women in their uncertainty without trying to rush them toward answers.

You don’t need a perfect therapist. You need someone who understands the terrain and can walk alongside you with steadiness and care.

A Quiet Invitation

If you’ve found yourself feeling anxious, grieving in unexpected ways, questioning yourself as a parent, or wondering what’s happening in this stage of life—you’re not alone. I understand, not just professionally, but personally.

And if you decide to reach out, you don’t have to explain everything perfectly. We can start right where you are.